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I had just finished speaking to the high school students when one of my volunteers came up to me and asked, “Chris, do you mind if I offer you some advice?”
- PAUSE, THEN RESPOND – When feedback hits us close to home our initial response is to fight back. The best thing to do is pause, breathe and listen. Pausing allows you to hear everything and check-in on all the emotion surrounding the situation. Know what you are feeling before you proceed.
- ASK YOURSELF, “WHAT IF THEY ARE RIGHT?” – If it hits us wrong, our first thought is to prove them wrong. Again, take a moment to breathe but consider their perspective. After all what they are giving you might be a little more objective than what you are feeling. Analyze their words, take into consideration what they are suggesting and don’t be afraid to implement.
- BOUNCE IT OFF A FRIEND – Sometimes we turn down advice because it’s from a source we have difficulty trusting. Take the opportunity to share the situation with your friend, see if they have similar thoughts. If they do, then give the other person credit and embrace their insight.
- MOVE ON – Critical feedback can eat away at us if not processed properly. First, hand it over to God, share it with a friend and if there is truth to it implement it. But, if there isn’t any truth and you are being fully attacked, check your heart and ask God for guidance.